I found the answer basically use layer-list to do something like the following that basically makes the selector slightly smaller.
<item android:state_pressed="true"><layer-list>
<item android:left="12dip" android:right="12dip" android:top="12dp" android:bottom="12dp"><shape android:shape="rectangle">
<solid android:color="@android:color/white" />
</shape></item>
</layer-list></item>