As i see it you can do this with a private collection that can be managed by modifiers which also mantain reverse relationship something like this:
public class TeamMember {
private TeamMember leader;
private Set<TeamMember> teamMembers= new HashSet<TeamMember>();
public Set<TeamMember> getTeamMembers(){
return new HashSet<TeamMember>(teamMembers);
}
public void addTeamMember(TeamMember member){
if(member.leader!=null){
member.leader.removeTeamMember(member);
}
member.leader=this;
teamMembers.add(member);
}
public void removeTeamMember(TeamMember member){
member.leader=null;
teamMembers.remove(member);
}
public TeamMember getLeader(){
return leader;
}
}
Since you dont have public setters for teamMembers or leader the only way to change leader or teamMembers is by using the addTeamMember and removeTeamMember methods so you have the bidirectional relationship mantained by these methods.
I wish this may help.