Unless you require Grails scaffolding and you're not depending on domain classes in Grails you can go without the GORM plugin and do the dirty work on your own.
Add the neo4j jar dependencies to your BuildConfig.groovy
and expose the GraphDatabaseService
and optionally the ExecutionEngine
to your application context, see http://grails.org/doc/latest/guide/spring.html#springdslAdditional.
In the near future there will be 2.0 version of the Neo4j GORM plugin that uses labels and relies solely on Cypher. Relationship properties is high on the list after this release.