How large are your tables? How much memory does the SymmetricDS instance have?
I've used SymmetricDS for a while, and without having done any profiling on it I believe that reloading large databases went quicker once I increased available memory (I usually run it in a Tomcat container).
That being said, SymmetricDS isn't by far as quick as some other tools when it comes to the initial replication.
Have you had a look at the tmp folder? Can you see any progress in file size. That is, the files which SymmetricDS temporarily writes to locally before sending the batch off to the remote side? Have you tried turning on more fine grained logging to get more details? What about database timeouts? Could it be that the extraction queries are running too long, and that the database just cuts them off?