Here are my answers to your two questions:
I work for an LSP and I've seen all sorts and flavors of Xliff. Most of them try to stick to OASIS 1.2 transitional schema. Some of TMS/CAT producers added their own extensions. These producers normally provide an XSD so you can validate their Xliffs by adding that XSD to OASIS schema; e.g. SDL extensions to 1.2. When I'm customizing Xliff for a client, I normally do namespaces and provide a simple additional XSD; e.g.:
<trans-unit id="0" translate="yes" resname="msg_foo"> <superduper:uri>http://foo.bar/iJKLM9</superduper:uri> <source>This is supposed to be a <superduper:g id="00001" newAtt="this is new attribute" xid="009"/> example.</source> <target state="new"></target> </trans-unit>
Most of the TMS/CAT tools are very basic (and closed) when it comes to their Xliff filters (or any of their filters for that matter) and I'm sorta kinda sure that they ignore your customized XSD.
Transolution is a very nice tool and my favorite Open Source translation tool. Unfortunately it's been long abandoned and has plenty of defects and shortcomings.
Anyway, if you provide a sample file, I can tell you what happens to non-conforming tags when it's imported into one of common, major CAT tools.
One final note; <g>
seems to be retired in Xliff 2.0.