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from tkinter import *
def sunken(event):
button = event.widget # detecte le bouton sur lequel on clique
button['relief'] = 'sunken' # changement de relief
root = Tk()
for i in range(8):
for j in range(8):
myButton = Button(root, text='', state='disabled')
myButton.grid(row=i, column=j)
myButton.bind("<Button-1>", sunken)
root.mainloop()