I wonder if this trigger will do the trick:
CREATE TABLE game(
party1_id INTEGER,
party2_id INTEGER,
CONSTRAINT p12_unique UNIQUE (party1_id, party2_id));
CREATE TRIGGER no_way BEFORE insert ON game
BEGIN
SELECT RAISE(ABORT, 'There can be only one.')
WHERE EXISTS (SELECT 1
FROM game
WHERE
party1_id = new.party2_id AND
party2_id = new.party1_id);
END;
/* Create few records in this table */
INSERT INTO game (party1_id, party2_id) VALUES (1, 2);
INSERT INTO game (party1_id, party2_id) VALUES (4, 3);
INSERT INTO game (party1_id, party2_id) VALUES (2, 4);
INSERT INTO game (party1_id, party2_id) VALUES (1, 2); /* fail */
INSERT INTO game (party1_id, party2_id) VALUES (2, 1); /* fail */
INSERT INTO game (party1_id, party2_id) VALUES (4, 2); /* fail */
COMMIT;
/* Display all the records from the table */
SELECT * FROM game;
It was tested in sqlite because I didn't have a mysql machine handy... I hope it works in mysql.
Best...
p.s. see you on Thursday!