I have only one RoR running on my server (and it's nginx) and I think your looking for
ps auxf
it shows me this for my one passenger instance:
nginx 28279 0.0 10.2 452128 107264 ? Sl Apr03 0:01 Passenger RackApp: /srv/http/redmine
The third column (10.2) is memory usage in %, the last columns shows the directory to the application. More about output here.