Firstly you are using zookeeper to maintain your shards and leaders/replicas. So if you want to have one shard with two instances and another shard with only a leader then you will have to modify your command as: 1)provide -DnumShards=2 so that the zookeeper knows that you need two shards 2)specify the -DzkHost parameter for this first solr instance also.
java -Dbootstrap_confdir=solr/myApp/conf -Dcollection.configName=myConfig -DzkRun -DnumShards=2 -DzkHost=** -jar start.jar
When you do this you will see some errors on console since shard2 is not created as yet. Now start your other two servers and you should see a shard1 with two servers(leader and replica) and shard2 will have only one instance i.e leader
If you want separation of indexes and control over those indexes.You will have to create two collections instead of two shards.
Explanation
you have 3 servers right!!! so when you will start solrCloud using zookeeper. following things will happen as:
1) start first solr server along with the zookeeper and you will get 1 shard for solr cloud as shard1
2) start second solr server and point to the zookeeper... since you have declared DnumShards=2 ,Zookeeper will check that it needs to create 1 more shard, so it creates shard2 for your collection. By now you will be able to see your admin console with 2 shards for 1 collection.
3) Now start your 3rd server and point it to zookeeper and now zookeeper sees that 2 shards are there so it will now create a replica for shard1 instead of a new shard.
so it will be like
collection--->shard1--->server1,server3
--->shard2--->server2