I am not sure I understand your question correctly, but I guess the answer is usually: You don't do that.
The controller is notified when the view gets input. This might be by delegation or observation but in most cases through target-action. The responder chain is not in focus at this point, it works in the background.
The controller is also responsible for making all the changes to the model, which it instantiates and handles.
In your example NSDocument will do some of these data model things for you, but NSDocument is not used in every application.
The other direction usually works through outlets, where the controller fills in all data the user-interface is likely to need. In an NSDocument based application the subclass of NSDocument will usually take the part of the controller here.