The error says you are missing the WPF Toolkit, which is a different .dll than the Extended WPF Toolkit.
The downloads page for the Extended Toolkit mentions you need to have the WPF Toolkit installed.
Requires .NET Framework 4.0 or 4.5. A build for .NET 3.5 is available but also requires the WPFToolkit to be installed.
The WPF Toolkit can be found here: http://wpf.codeplex.com/releases/view/40535