The POM is the POM. You seem to be talking about managing transitive dependencies in other projects that reference "A". Your options in Maven are fairly limited:
- You can use exclusions to remove transitive dependencies that you don't want.
- You can declare dependencies in "A" as "provided", but this is only really correct if that jar actually is provided in A's target environment. It's primarily intended for Java EE api dependencies, like servlet-api, which are provided by containers and prohibited from being included in WAR files.
- You can declare dependencies as optional, which is what people usually mean when they say "provided", and manually include those dependencies in the places where they're needed.
I'd personally choose the "optional" route because it's the job of each project to pull in the dependencies it needs, and if something is optional when using "A", it just means things that use "A" have to explicitly choose whether they'll use that optional part of it. This tends to be the best fit when building an artifact that has multiple, differing use cases.
For additional help in this area, you can also use the maven enforcer plugin to ban certain dependencies from builds so that you don't accidentally get jars that you don't want.