Just use an interface... one you define or to use the [ClassInterface(ClassInterfaceType.AutoDual)] there are comments online you can find that indicate not to use autodual, but if you control the complete usage of your library, it seems like an 'ok' way to go.
I tried all sorts of ways to simulate / understand why my one project didn't need an interface to be visible by an vb project, without success. i had originally thought perhaps possible that it was because that project implemented an IDisposable Interface (the ONLY interface used in the C# projects that is com visible) but that didn't turn out to be the reason. Anyway I don't want to waste anyone else's time on this. thanks for the responses.
this link provides ample information on the subject: http://anturcynhyrfus.blogspot.com/2011/03/creating-com-visible-c-component.html