To fill the tab with your ListBox, use the Fill property.
listBoxMember.Dock = DockStyle.Fill;
Also since you are now creating the ListBox dynamically you'll need to set the ContextMenu dynamically as well.
listBoxMember.ContextMenu = myContextMenu;
Also be sure to give the listBoxMember a name so you can find it in the tab1.Controls collection.
listBoxMember.Name = "listBoxMember";
tab1.Controls["listBoxMember"];