Just for those who want to know: You have to set the maxit argument in the vglm-function without using the control argument, for example
library(VGAM)
pneumo <- transform(pneumo, let = log(exposure.time))
(fit <- vglm(cbind(normal, mild, severe) ~ let,
family=cumulative(parallel = TRUE, reverse = TRUE),
data=pneumo, maxit=1))
fit@iter # output is 1