This is the same issue as here:
Ilnumerics Ilpanel not activating when compiled in a winform into a dll when loaded into matlab in-a-winform-into-a-dll-when-loa
Using VSTO as host for ILNumerics lets the panels assume, it was loaded in a designer. We are currently collecting possible workarounds and solutions. One solution might be to introduce a flag in the Settings of ILNumerics:
Hosted [default: false]
Your situation would require the flag to be enabled. In hosted mode, a blacklist of common designers could be checked at runtime and compared to the current entry assembly. Any other suggestions?