I think there are several questions in one.
I stopped trying to trick NHibernate too much. I wouldn't access entities from multiple threads, because they are usually not thread safe. At least when using lazy loading. Caching lazy entities is therefore something evil.
I would avoid too many queries by the use of batch size, which is far the cleanest and easiest solution and in most cases "good enough". It's fully transparent to the business logic, which makes it so cool.
I would:
- Consider not caching the entity at all. Use NH first level cache (say: always load it using session.Get()). Make use of lazy loading when only a small part of the data is used in a single transaction.
- Is there is a proven need to cache the data, consider to turn off lazy loading at all (by making the entities non-lazy and setting all the collections to non lazy. Load the entity once and cache it. Still consider thread safety when accessing the data while it is still loaded.
- Should the entities be lazy, because some instances of the same type are not in the cache, consider using a DTO-like structure as cache. Copy all data in a similar class structure which are not entities. This may sound like a lot of additional work, but at the end it will avoid many strange problems and safe you much time.
Usually, query time is less important as flush time. This time is used by NH to find which entities changed in a session. To avoid this, make entities read only if you can.