Please, with all due respect: I understand what SVN does with merges and I do not want to handle that. We've tried merge but it hasn't worked out (has worked, but not worked out) for us. As I mentioned, we're not dealing with standard software code, which is part of the problem. In any case, I will hazard a guess that switching tag to trunk without an automatic update is not a feature afforded by SVN (which was my original question)
In any case, I figured out how to make the switch for individual files. That part works now as I intend it to, so I can check out a tag, and check specific files in to trunk successfully.
% cd $tag
% svn switch $repo/trunk/filepath/file ./filepath/file