Here's how to do this. Each recursive call you pass to the function tail of the list and (k - 1) - position of the new element in the tail of the list. When the list is empty, you construct a single-element list (which was given to you); when k is 0, you append your element to what's left from the list. On the way back, you append all heads of the list that you unwrapped before.
fun kinsert [] x k = [x]
| kinsert ls x 0 = x::ls
| kinsert (l::ls) x k = l::(kinsert ls x (k - 1))
I used a 0-indexed list; if you want 1-indexed, just replace 0 with 1.
As you can see, it's almost the same as your mylength
function. The difference is that there are two base cases for recursion and your operation on the way back is not +
, but ::
.
Edit
You can call it like this
kinsert [1,2,3,4,5,6] 10 3;
It has 3 arguments; unlike your length function, it does not wrap arguments in a tuple.