Use the 'custom id' (aka 'custom value') when sending the survey:
http://help.surveymonkey.com/articles/en_US/kb/Can-I-track-respondents-using-a-unique-ID
You can also do this with email collectors as long as you fill out the recipient correct and populate its custom value.
Then when you call get_respondent_list ask for 'custom_id' as one of the fields, this will be populated with the value you provided.