You'll need to add the MessageController to the RecipientController by adding it through the needs property, like this:
App.RecipientController = Ember.ObjectController.extend({
needs:['message'];
});
You'll then be able to access the properties of the message controller with a path like this: controllers.message.model
.
This won't cause your messages to load though. You'll still need to make sure they're loaded in the route.