I don't use Netbeans, so I'm not sure I understand what you mean. The VCS plugins are providing the functionality related to version handling, the only thing that is specific for different languages is the support for structured comparison of versions.
I would suggest you try Eclipse+Java and if they do what you want and we don't, then file a ticket for that at https://erlide-tools.assembla.com/spaces/erlide/support/tickets