try something like
function my_hook_views_query_alter(&$view, &$query) { if ($view->name == 'my_hook') { $alias = $query->add_table('civicrm_contact_civicrm_relationship','civicrm_contact_civicrm_relationship_1'); $query->add_where_expression(0,'civicrm_contact_civicrm_relationship.id <> civicrm_contact_civicrm_relationship_1.id'); dpm($query); //dumps object to admin with devel module } }