You would have to use the to
parameter when invoking the feed dialog via direct url. Check the "Direct URL Example" and "Properties" block of the feed dialog reference.
The final url would look something like this (notice the /dialog/feed
and to=...
parts):
$url = 'https://www.facebook.com/dialog/feed?
app_id=[appid]&
link=[link]&
picture=[picture url]&
name=[name]&
caption=[caption]&
description=[description]&
redirect_uri=[redirect uri]&
to=[friend id]';