You can use a subset by indexing the state sequence object and the grouping variable. If you have a state sequence object called "myseq", a subset vector called "subset" and the data frame where your group variable is stored called "my.data.frame":
seqIplot(myseq[subset, ], group=my.data.frame$mygroup[subset])
For instance, you can build the subset vector using
subset <- my.data.frame$mygroup %in% levels(my.data.frame$mygroup)[1:2]
OR
subset <- my.data.frame$mygroup %in% c("value1", "value2")
Hope this helps