You should not compute the stress and strain at the nodes but inside the elements. You can choose for example 4 Gauss points and compute the values there. You then have to think about a scheme on how to get the values computed at the Gauss points onto the tet nodes.
There is a Mathematica application example which illustrates this. Unfortunately the web page is no longer available, but the notebooks are here. You'll find the example in the application example section under Finite Element Method, Structural Mechanics 3D (in the old HelpBrowser). If you have difficulties I could convert it to PDF and send it you.