You can try to use Adaptive Load Balancing of Akka cluster-aware routers.
Or you can try to create your own mechanism for reduce nodes overload. For example it may contain a custom mailbox for your Receiver actor which may periodically add a message containing the current mailbox queue length to the head of the mailbox queue. Then your Receiver actor may relay such a message to all cluster nodes. In this case you will be able to maintain cluster-wide statistics of Receiver's mailboxes usage (just remember to include TTL in that statistics and treat no statistics message received as empty mailbox indicator).
If your application can tolerate partial data losses then you can simply drop extra messages directly from the Receiver's mailboxes (as well will require a custom mailbox implementation).