It's frustrating isn't it? First, include a changed event handler. Like this:
public string Title
{
get { return (string)GetValue(TitleProperty); }
set { SetValue(TitleProperty, value); }
}
public static readonly DependencyProperty TitleProperty =
DependencyProperty.Register("Title", typeof(string),
typeof(MyControl), new PropertyMetadata(string.Empty, Changed));
private static void Changed(DependencyObject d, DependencyPropertyChangedEventArgs e)
{
var c = d as MyControl;
// now, do something
}
Then, please read this article so you see there are more gotchas than just that one: http://blog.jerrynixon.com/2013/07/solved-two-way-binding-inside-user.html
Best of luck!