if you want to use the onsuccess event handler with style, and if youre including jquery here you go
function killLink(element) {
element.attr("onclick"," ");
}
This function will simply remove the onclick ajax handler that grails creates from the tag,
your gsp would look like this
<g:remoteLink class="dropdown-toggle" data-toggle="dropdown"
controller="mystuff" onsuccess="killLink(this)" action="items" update="itemsListMenu">Items<b class="caret"></b></g:remoteLink>