So far as I know this isn't possible to customize the options-menu, you might want to override the menu button press and create it by yourself in a layout. The follow function handles the menu-press.
@Override
public boolean onKeyDown(int keyCode, KeyEvent event) {
if ( keyCode == KeyEvent.KEYCODE_MENU ) {
//Put the code for an action menu from the top here
return true;
}
return super.onKeyDown(keyCode, event);
}