MYSQL select mutual friends

Question

My 'friends' table has the following columns: id, userID, userID2, state

userID and userID2 don't have a specific order of being put into the database.

I currently use this query to find a users friends:

$quer = mysql_query("
SELECT CASE WHEN userID=$id THEN userID2 ELSE userID END AS friendID 
FROM friends WHERE userID=$id OR userID2=$id");

I have tried this however it doesn't work:

SELECT 
CASE WHEN userID=$id OR userID=$session THEN userID2 
ELSE userID END AS friendID  
FROM friends WHERE (userID=$session OR userID2=$session) 
AND (userID=$id OR userID2=$id) AND friendID!=$session

also it shouldn't return the row if friendID=$session (which i have added to my second query)

EDIT: I want to return as friendID rows that $id and $session have in common. I'm not exactly sure why it isn't working.